
- Trust
Trust
is a very precious commodity. Trust allows relationships to flourish and is found at the root of happy and successful marriages, families, teams, and business relationships.
Consider with me how the lack of trust, or existence of trust, impacts your life everyday.
My elementery-age daughters often fall asleep in our van. They know when they get home, dad will carefully carry them in, up the stairs, and tuck them into bed with a kiss. They trust me enough to fall asleep and entrust their safety into my care. Occcassionally, they comment about enjoying Daddy carrying them to bed. They feel secure and are at peace; they are displaying trust. This beautiful picture of trust can be contrasted to situations where children and/or adults are fearful and guarded in their relationships inhibiting peace and security.
Recently, my father-in-law invited me to go hunting. My wife gratiously sent me off without any concern. Because she trusts me, and her father, I enjoyed three hours hunting. Other couples often experience significant difficulties in their relationships due to suspicions of honesty regarding whereabouts, activities, finances, etc.
I recently observed a great workplace example. I was asked to look into a problem that occurred in ordering materials for a rush production job. I delegated the fact-finding effort to a very capable individual. Theoretically, the effort should have taken less than thiry minutes. However, after two days and three clarifications, it was time to regroup. I pulled the employee aside to ask why this effort was not going well. He told me he felt as though he was being a snitch which was being confirmed by the attitudes and comments he received during his inquiries. When I looked at the details reported, key information was absent; when events occurred, names of employees involved, and specific details of the situation. It was a classic case of “CYA”. At this point, nearly ten employees had been asked about the issue and still the answer was obscure. The investigation caused employees to become defensive and evasive. The employees were willing to trust the request to accelerate the process, but did not trust the motives of those initiating an inquiry into the problem.
I like the symbology used by Steven Covey in his book “The Speed of Trust”. He refers to the existence of Trust paying dividends and the lack of trust costing a tax. Where trust exists, Speed goes up and Cost goes down. Conversely, where Trust does not exist, Speed goes down and the Cost goes up. In other words, Trust pays dividends and lack of Trust costs a tax.
Trust is beautiful when present…but painful and costly when absent!
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“Having spent many years trying to define the essentials of trust, I arrived at the position that if two people could say two things to each other and mean them, then there was the basis for real trust. The two things were “I mean you no harm” and “I seek your greatest good.” – Jim Meehan, British Psychologist and Poet
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